Bar/Bat Mitzvah

Are you 13 or 83 or somewhere in between?  Bar Mitzvah Your Way offers Bar and Bat Mitzvah opportunities for the young—and the young at heart.

Not a member of a Temple or synagogue?  The possibilities for a personal and meaningful ceremony are there for you.  Bar Mitzvah Your Way can make this momentous event happen for you or a member of your family.  Choose from the Traditional or strike a new chord.  The Bar/Bat Mitzvah can be the main Service Leader or involve your family and friends.  There is room on the Bimah for all!  Your event will be both inclusive and exclusive (in the good way) at the same time!!  The Bar or Bat Mitzvah should be a memorable one for everyone.

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For the Young:

Bar (for a boy) or Bat (for a girl) Mitzvah, has become a staple in our Jewish traditions.  It is a ‘coming of age’ experience for our children.   The requirements that go into conducting this life-affirming ceremony take time and commitment.  The skills that the child learns in preparing for this ceremony are those that will serve him or her well throughout a lifetime.

It is very interesting to note that the historical ‘tradition’ of a Bat Mitzvah is really a brief one.  The first one was on in 1922, when the daughter of Rabbi Mordechai Kaplan, founder of the Reconstructionist Movement, became the first Bat Mitzvah.

Read more about it on my friend, Mitchell Bard’s web site, Jewish Virtual Library.

For the Young at Heart!

However, this meaningful tradition is not just limited to the ‘young.’  Anyone who is Jewish is entitled to this enriching and spiritual occasion.  And even if you’ve already had one, perhaps you’ve had thoughts about going through the process again.  Maybe being older and wiser would make an event different than before and even better.  (Now that you are more mature and have different insights and views on life.  )  Recently, a new custom has come into this realm.  If you are approaching your 83rd birthday, someone might be asking you, “Nu…so are you going to have another Bar/Bat Mitzvah?”

People who did not have a Bar Mitzvah, those who wish to renew their commitment to Judaism or those who reach the age of 83 sometimes have a late or second Bar Mitzvah. As the biblical life span is 70 years, an 83 year old may be thought of as one who was born again and lived an additional thirteen years. Actor Kirk Douglas celebrated a second Bar Mitzvah at age 83.

My main goal as guide and coach is to support you in creating your comfort zone. I understand that approaching the unknown may be unsettling. However, after a short while you’ll see that you won’t be intimidated by what you don’t know. Rather, you will be delighted with your discoveries. Our time together will be personalized to meet your needs, to  make Your Mitzvah Your Way.

Life-Cycle Officiant

Whatever the occasion, Rabbi Betsy designs and conducts personalized meaningful ceremonies to help you celebrate your event in the context of your own beliefs.


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